Why Would My Ex-Girlfriend Keep Telling Me She Loves Her Ex-Boyfriend?

It can be incredibly painful and confusing to see your ex-girlfriend keep telling you that she loves her ex-boyfriend, even when you're in a relationship with her. Here’s a closer look at why this might be happening, and how you can best navigate the situation.

Intention
Often, the reason your ex-girlfriend keeps talking about her ex-lover is simply to “stick the knife in” or hurts you. In some cases, it’s a strategic way to afflict you with emotional and psychological distress.

Understanding Her Intentions

There could be several underlying reasons for her behavior, ranging from emotional manipulation to unresolved feelings. Regardless of the motive, continued engagement in these conversations can be damaging to your mental well-being and to the potential future of your relationship.

A Clear No-Contact Policy

When you see that she’s not moving on and is still talking about her ex, it’s important to take a step back. Hanging around and hoping she will change her mind is often futile. You need to take decisive action to protect your emotional and mental health.

Take the Following Steps:

Send a clear message: Write a text or email expressing that you need to move forward and that it would be inappropriate to continue talking to her. For example: “Ex! I’ve decided it’s time to go no contact. I need to focus on my go-forward and it would be inappropriate behavior towards my new SO to still be talking to you. I just ask you to respect my wishes and lose my contact information as I will be doing for you. I wish you the best going forward”.

Sending a clear text to her is the first step in ending the relationship. Follow through by blocking her and deleting her contact information. There is no reason to keep her in your life or contact list.

Navigate the Emotional Terrain

Her continued talk about her ex can be a reminder that your relationship is not what she expected, and this can be heartbreaking. Here’s what you can do to cope:

Seek support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist to help you process your feelings and regain your emotional balance. Give yourself time: Healing takes time. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge the stages of grief you might be going through. Focus on you: Invest time in activities that make you happy and help you grow as an individual.

Conclusion

While it’s natural to wonder why your ex-girlfriend keeps talking about her ex-lover, understanding the underlying reasons can help you grasp the significance of the situation and take the necessary steps to move forward. Remember, moving on from a failed relationship comes in stages, and it’s okay to need time to process your emotions.

Stay strong and focus on yourself. Wishing you the best as you navigate this challenging period in your life.