Reflections on My Journey: A Woman's Quest for Authentic Friendship

Throughout the past year, particularly in 2017, I experienced a profound transformation in my understanding of friendship. What started as a journey of self-discovery shifted into a profound exploration of the dynamics of human connection, especially in the context of gender and social constructs.

My Involvement with the Deity Odin

One of the most fascinating and intertwining experiences of my life was getting involved with the Norse god, Odin. This deity, renowned for his mischief and wisdom, has left an indelible mark on my life. Inspired by his qualities, I delved deeply into storytelling, much like J.R.R. Tolkien's creation of Gandalf, who was undoubtedly based on Odin. While Gandalf is a wise wizard, Odin's complex and multifaceted nature offers a rich tapestry of experiences and lessons.

My Road Trips Across the United States

I embarked on multiple road trips across the United States in 2017, with my latest adventure spanning from the East Coast to the West Coast, traveling along the Pacific Coastal Highway and back to Boston. Each journey was a blend of adventure, challenge, and discovery. The most memorable part of my trips was the stretch through the Midwestern states, particularly Nevada, where the lack of cell phone service added a layer of solitude and introspection. The temperatures reached as high as 110 degrees in Arizona, which tested both my endurance and my resolve. However, the Ohio rainbows, grand and magnificent, are perhaps the most indelible memories of these trips.

The Role of Women in My Life

Growing up, humans, both men and women, have created numerous problems for me. Despite this, my attachment to and camaraderie with other women have been enduring. Women have often been my confidants and companions. However, these relationships have not always been ideal. For instance, a childhood friend initially ragged me relentlessly, which adversely impacted my life. Years later, this same friend became my best friend, and despite the dramas, I learned a great deal about resilience and friendship.

The societal narrative often constrains the nature of friendships between men and women, particularly in terms of platonic vs. romantic relationships. I have found that a woman and a man can form deep, meaningful friendships without the prospect of intimacy. Sharing games, jokes, and moments of companionability can deepen the bond without the pressure of romantic expectations. These relationships are about understanding, support, and growth.

I also encountered members of the LGBTQ community, whose stories and insights deeply resonated with me. Their experiences and wisdom provided a broader perspective on life, contributing to a profound healing and comfort I had never felt before.

The most significant realization from my travels is that friendship is not gender-biased. This truth applies to any relationship, whether it is with a person of the same gender or a different gender. It is crucial for women to stop worrying about societal judgments and to embrace a broader range of friendships, enriching their lives.

Conclusion

Ultimately, my journey in 2017 was a quest for authentic connection and friendship. Through my adventures and challenges, I have come to understand that true friendship transcends gender and societal constructs. Happy reading, and may your journeys lead to meaningful and enriching experiences.