Navigating First Kisses on Stage: Tips for Stage Performers

Performing a kiss for a theatrical scene can be one of the most nerve-wracking experiences for any actor, especially if it's your first time. Here are valuable tips to help you prepare and excel in your role, irrespective of your stage experience.

1. Communicate with Your Scene Partner

Talk to the person you’ll be kissing. Discuss any nerves or boundaries and establish comfort levels. Clear communication can significantly ease tension and ensure a smoother rehearsal process.

2. Practice the Scene

Rehearse the scene multiple times. Familiarity with the dialogue and actions can greatly help you feel more at ease when it comes time to perform. Repetition builds confidence and muscle memory.

3. Focus on the Character

Remember that this is a performance. Concentrate on your characters emotions and motivations. This can help shift your focus away from the act of kissing itself and onto delivering a compelling performance.

4. Consider Simplifying the Kiss

If the scene allows, opt for a gentle peck rather than a full-on kiss. This can make it feel less intimidating and easier to manage emotionally and physically.

5. Discuss Realistic Scenarios

Many productions offer the option of fake kisses. It's important to decide whether a real kiss or a fake one is more suitable for the scene. In high school plays, fake kisses often include options like a cheek kiss that looks genuine from afar or a finger/thumb kiss where you are actually kissing your own fingers or thumbs.

6. Work with Your Director

Work with your director on the stage blocking. Knowing the choreography can help you feel more in control and confident during the performance. Block out the physical movements beforehand to ensure everything flows naturally on stage.

7. Stay Relaxed

Taking deep breaths and relaxing your body before the scene is crucial. Tension can make things feel more awkward and less authentic. Approach it with a calm mind and body to enhance your performance.

8. Be Present

When the moment comes, try to be in the moment. Trust your instincts and let the performance guide you. Embrace the character and the emotions associated with the kiss to deliver a more authentic and engaging performance.

9. Reflect on the Experience

After the scene, take a moment to reflect on how it felt. Whether it was what you expected or not, it’s part of your growth as a performer. Use the experience to improve and refine your craft for future roles.

Real-life Stories: Theatre Kissing Experiences

One such story involves a real kiss in a school play. Jackie, the lead actress, and I were required to kiss at the end of our love story. Jackie, despite her own boyfriend being in the front row, confidently said yes when asked if we wanted to kiss. We took each other in our arms and kissed, really kissed. Jackie, being a gorgeous girl, and the emotions I was channeling, made the kiss feel great. However, her boyfriend's disapproval was palpable, adding an extra layer of complexity to the performance.

After the play ended, Jackie complimented me on how much I enjoyed the kiss. She said, “You seemed to really like that kiss, RJ.” I told her I did. “Me too,” she smiled, adding, “a lot.”

These real-life experiences show that while the first kiss on stage can be nerve-wracking, with preparation and the right mindset, it can be a fulfilling and even enjoyable experience. Theatre is a world where emotions are always on display, and sometimes, even the most intimate of scenes can lead to meaningful connections and growth.

Remember, in theatre, many actors have been in your position, and it's completely normal to feel nervous. Good luck with your performance!