Understanding the Importance of Regular Communication

In today's fast-paced world, communication between parents and children can sometimes become strained, especially over something as trivial as not making a phone call. As someone who has experienced this firsthand, I want to share my perspective on how we can handle these situations more effectively.

The Two-Way Street of Communication

Every parent and child relationship is different, and just because one parent does not often call the other, it does not make it a rule. The idea that the obligation to call lies solely on one side of the relationship is a common misconception. For instance, my own mother never admonished me for not calling, knowing full well that life is unpredictable and busy schedules happen.

However, my mother-in-law takes a different approach. She feels that as a retired person, her son should call her regularly. This attitude, while understandable, can sometimes leave the other party feeling guilty and unfairly judged. It is important to communicate in a way that respects both people's schedules and priorities. For example, my husband suggested that his retired mother could actively call him if she felt the need to talk, rather than waiting and getting upset if he does not call her often.

Responsibility and Safety

For minors, the responsibility of tracking a child's location and knowing about their activities is a significant concern for parents. This is not about being controlling, but rather a genuine desire to ensure the child's safety and wellbeing. Therefore, it is crucial that young adults who are not living with their parents keep in touch regularly, even if it is just a quick call or text, to let their parents know they are okay.

When a parent scolds their child for not calling, it is a cue to show humility and respect. Instead of dismissing their concern, it is important to acknowledge their worry and apologize for any unnecessary anxiety you might have caused. A calm and respectful tone goes a long way in maintaining a positive relationship.

Gratitude and Reciprocation

As adults, it is even more important to appreciate the gesture of a mother who still cares about her child, enough to express concern when not hearing from her. It is a rare and precious thing, especially in today's world where busy schedules can sometimes lead to isolation. Being grateful for these moments and making time to reciprocate with kindness and appreciation can strengthen the bond between a child and their mother.

My own mother, for example, was an incredibly loving and selfless person. She was always there for us, and her passing on January 6, 2017, at the age of 86, left me with an uneraseable void in my life. Even now, picking up the phone to call her, I am reminded of the love and warmth it represented.

So, the next time your mom scolds you for not calling, take a moment to apologize. Make a firm resolve to keep your promises and be present for her. Life is fleeting, and moments like these are precious. We can never bring back the time we have lost, so let's make the most of the time we have together.

Remember, communication is not just about making phone calls; it is about the love and respect that underlie every conversation.

Conclusion

Regular communication with your mother, whether as a minor or an adult, is crucial. It helps to ensure their peace of mind and strengthens the bond of love. Let's take this time to appreciate and reciprocate the love we receive from our mothers, no matter how we communicate.

Let's communicate not just with words, but with hearts.